So, is it true what they say? Does travel make you fall deeper in love? Does travelling the world, embarking on adventures and seeing the unknown can make you fall in love, or even back in to love? We’ve spoken to countless couples that spend all their time or a considerable part of it travelling together and creating memories for one another. Mr and Mrs Monnet for example, take their love of travelling to the next level and get married in each new country that they visit (read more here). That’s quite a commitment but of course it establishes a togetherness to their planning and ensures that they achieve goals as a couple. As a result, we’ve heard a lot of first hand experiences about how being away, experiencing new places can save a relationship and bring you closer together.
There have been specific scientific studies carried out that have sought to understand why this could be. To fully understand that we need to understand how travelling can improve one’s overall life satisfaction and optimism in their lives. New experiences and experiencing differing cultures tends to develop attributes in a person’s character. Qualities such as confidence, curiosity, humility and general knowledge. To another person, these are personality traits that can be attractive, even on a sub-conscious level. So it seems simple enough that someone who exudes an understanding of theirselves and interesting stories will to some degree be more attractive to others.
In 2012 a US Travel survey found that relationships last longer when couples travel together as opposed to those that don’t, and conversely divorce rates are higher in relationships where they do not travel together at all. Moreover it found that couples who travel together found higher levels of satisfaction in their relationships. This isn’t altogether unexpected. Day to day life puts tremendous strain on relationships, through issues such as financial worries, workplace stress and lifestyle stress. So it’s expected that when those are removed to a degree, a couple is given an opportunity to look past them and toward one another and remember why you love one another.
Let’s look at the individual things that you do or happen whilst on a trip that can benefit a relationship. Firstly, travelling can sometimes be about compromise towards another’s life long interests. It’s often that someone desperately wants to visit a place because of say an old family connection or a long wish for a particular experience. The other in the relationship is drawn towards this attraction because of their partners enthusiasm. By offering up your companionship to experience your partners ambitions with them will inevitably draw you towards each other. Equally, a new experience that you take part in together is typically a pleasurable and rewarding thing to do, that you’ll look back on together. Individuals are drawn towards others that they know will help them grow as a person and so these experiences that are shared are to the mutual benefit of both individuals and the relationship.
Once travelling is over the connections and experiences it has created don’t just stop there. You could be at home or work doing something completely mundane, something you do everyday, and then be struck by a memory that’s bought to life through a visual, a conversation or a smell. Travelling will bring back feelings of excitement, as that is what nostalgia delivers. Those shared memories are completely priceless and unforgettable. They’re conversation starters and things to tell your friends and family. Of course their are pitfalls to avoid when travelling together and these have a lot to do with your interests and personalities. For example, whilst it may be your boyfriend’s dream of going on white water rafting and camping holiday, can you put up with the lack of showers and morning mosquitos? If not, it’s hardly ideal grounds for kickstarting and reviving a relationship. Yet when an experience is shared that is sought after by both people then magical things can happen.
Travelling is very similar to falling in love. It is all about the unexpected and the unknown that gives excitement to a shared experience. Together you solve challenges together and equally reap the benefits. So what are you waiting for then? Get travelling. Not only will it open your mind, you’ll surely fall deeper in love with your partner.
Are you looking to plan a romantic getaway for you and your partner? Then read our 20 tips that will help you plan effectively here.